A lot of people using the Law of Attraction to work on love and romance are attempting to manifest a new connection or find a dream partner.
However, it is also common to focus manifestation efforts on enhancing, or even repairing, a relationship that already exists. If you fall into this latter category and are interested in what the Law of Attraction can do for a troubled relationship, it’s worth pausing for a moment to ask yourself this question: Is this relationship still the right one for you?
In particular, if your partner expects you to accept a combination of some of the following things, it’s time to draw some firmer boundaries… Or consider leaving the relationship entirely.
This is a broad category of behaviors that you should never have to accept, but it’s a crucial one.
Trust is one of the most important building blocks in a loving relationship. Living without it creates chronic anxiety, low self-esteem, self-doubt, and sometimes even outburst of anger.
Whether your partner has violated your trust just once in a truly major way (e.g. through infidelity) or regularly violates your trust, some significant self-reflection is called for… Especially if the person is unwilling to apologize. They may even try to blame you for what happened.
Relationships can overcome breaches of trust if both parties are willing to commit to honesty and patience. However, it takes careful work that often requires the help of a therapist. If your partner won’t do that work, or can’t, then you’re likely better off trying to manifest a new, better relationship than you are concentrating all your efforts on the toxicity of this current one.
You deserve someone who offers genuineness, consistency, and emotional safety.
When you’re in a good, healthy relationship, being with your partner will generally build you up and make you feel better about yourself. You will be empowered to set ambitious goals, follow your dreams, and become the very best version of yourself.
In contrast, a relationship with a partner who floods you with negative energy will drain you, infecting you with a low vibration that reduces your ability to create a better future in all areas of life.
In some cases, your partner may be doing their level best to avoid bringing this amount of negative energy into your relationship. For example, perhaps they are battling mental health issues (like depression). Or, they are processing a significant loss (like a bereavement).
However, if your partner just isn’t comfortable seeing you thrive as an independent person or simply doesn’t seem to understand the importance of offering support, they are probably not the right one for you.
As noted above, it’s important for your intimate relationships to promote personal growth. Your dream partner may help take you to the most exciting, dynamic parts of who you are and what you can achieve. That being said, it’s just as essential to feeling truly accepted for who you already are.
The best dream partner for you will be someone who makes you feel completely free to be authentic. Someone who gives you the sense of being “seen”. If you’re being told that you have to change, or it’s even just being heavily but constantly implied, you will lose faith in your own value. Your happiness may suffer in dramatic ways as a result.
There are lots of reasons why a partner might make you feel like you need to change. For example, they may actually be jealous of you and looking to limit your potential. Or, they may be projecting their own most-disliked traits onto you and then attacking them to make themselves feel better.
But whatever the reason, they are holding you back and making you feel uncomfortable to be yourself. That’s not acceptable.
When you first think about threats in a relationship, you might think about physical threats to your safety. While you should, of course, take steps to remove yourself from a physically abusive or hazardous relationship, you also have every right to be in a partnership free of emotional blackmail and ultimatums.
For example, disagreements and conflicts should be dealt with via open, clear communication.
This is an extremely helpful and simple framework for working out relationship problems:
However, if a whisper of disagreement leads to your partner threatening to leave if they don’t get their own way, you’re effectively being held, hostage. Consequently, you may be in a reduced position of power that is extremely damaging to your autonomy.
Look for a relationship that offers consistent respect, fairness, and warmness as its core. You deserve nothing less.