14 Soulmate Signs: How To Identify Your Soulmate
Have you wondered how to identify your soulmate, or what the soulmate signs are? Thanks to Disney movies and classic Hollywood romances, most people grew up thinking they’d find their soulmate and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, it’s common to go for decades without finding “the one” or even knowing what soulmate signs to look out for. Consequently, the concept of a soulmate may start to feel like a foolish fantasy.
However, if you look around, you’ll see there are couples who prove that soulmates are real. This means it’s possible for you to find and nurture that dream relationship too… if you look out for the relevant clues, and even ask the right questions, just like these:
How do you know when you meet your soulmate?
What does a soulmate connection feel like?
What happens when you meet your soulmate?
Here are 14 soulmate signs to keep in mind, to help you recognize when you’ve found the one.
Identify Your Soulmate With These 14 Soulmate Signs
1. You Have An Intense Intuition
When you are in a state to manifest love, there’s often a flash of recognition that occurs when you meet a soulmate. Sometimes it feels like the phenomenon of manifesting love at first sight, and at other times it’s more like a strong sense of familiarity.
So if you feel comfortable, energized, and intimate with someone even though you’ve only just met them, there’s a good chance this relationship will go the distance.
2. You’re Best Friends
There’s a myth that romantic partners can’t be close friends.
However, in truth, a strong friendship is a foundation for a lasting romance. When you meet your soulmate, you also meet your best friend!
It is still important to have friendships outside of your relationship. This simply means you just easily “get” each other on a deeper level than you usually experience, you share a sense of humor, and you quickly become each other’s number one source of support.
3. There’s Mutual Respect
Relationships often fall apart when the two people try to change each other. In contrast, soulmates respect each other on a fundamental level. Plus, this respect is based on really knowing each other (flaws and all).
So if you find yourself really accepting someone in spite of their quirks and neuroses, and you feel that acceptance directed back at you unconditionally, this may be a soulmate connection.
4. You Have The Same Vision Of The Future
This is one of the most significant signs that you’ve found your soulmate because it’s not only an indication of a deep connection but also one of the most reliable predictors of a happy partnership.
If you don’t share key values, imagine your future in the same way, and want the same sorts of things out of life, resentment grows and begins to sour the relationship. So, when you meet someone who actually sees their life unfolding in the same way you imagine your own, you’ve struck gold!
5. You Challenge Each Other
Your ideal partner will not only admire you for all you’ve done but open your eyes to all you could do. This can be challenging because it will mean that the two will often encourage one another to step out of your comfort zones.
However, the unique combination of challenge and support provided by a soulmate is a major catalyst for personal development and growth. And, in the future, you’re sure to be grateful to each other for all the encouragement and gentle prodding administered over the years!
6. You Fight For The Relationship
No relationship is without conflict, even when soulmates get together. There will always be obstacles and bumps in the road. But whether you’re trying to cope with family difficulties, financial worries, illness, career uncertainty, or parenting issues, a couple who are meant to be together will keep fighting for the relationship.
Crucially, you’ll find ways to fight together in order to make things better, because you’ll both want the relationship to survive more than you’ll want to defend your own egos.
7. You Can Be Apart, But Prefer Being Together
Soulmates are able to strike the right balance between time together and time apart. They trust each other and still feel close when they’re doing separate things, rather than being consumed with feelings that do not serve. This is when the need to understand and overcome jealousy or deal with anxiety.
At the same time, when you’re in a relationship with your soulmate you also know that you’re happiest and more fulfilled when you’re enjoying quality time as a couple.
If spending time together ever feels like a chore, consider the reason behind this.
After all, what could be better than hanging out with your best friend, favorite lover, biggest fan and main teammate?
8. You’re Comfortable Being Authentic
Finally, it’s common to have a range of masks that you wear in different situations in order to get on or fit in. However, one of the most satisfying things about being with a soulmate is that there’s no need for any pretense. Rather, you automatically behave entirely like yourself, and it feels like you’re showing each other your true selves.
Being genuine in this way opens you both to the most profound forms of intimacy and it’s often at your very first meeting that you realize this amazing potential is there.
9. You Empathise With Them
When you meet your soulmate, your empathy becomes super-charged. In other words, you feel each other's successes and defeats as though they are your own. For example, when they receive a promotion at work it's as though you've been rewarded for your skill. And when they argue with a difficult family member, it's as though you're involved in that conflict too. You immediately know when it's time to celebrate and when it's time to commiserate.
Becoming empaths in this way allows you to feel like a team, and prevents jealousy or competitiveness from developing within the relationship. Even more importantly, sensing one another's feelings facilitates deep understanding, including in areas where others may have struggled to understand you in the past. And as a bonus, you'll often find that soulmate empathy enhances your self-esteem, allowing you to truly see yourself and all your qualities through the eyes of a loved one for the first time.
10. You Start To Balance Each Other
There's a common misconception that soulmates are just carbon copies of each other. In reality, finding a soul mate is more about meeting someone perfectly complementary rather than someone identical. It's likely that you'll have a set of compatible underlying values, for example, and a broadly similar idea of what a wonderful life together might look like. However, you may well have different family backgrounds and some contrasting personality traits. The key is that these differences don't create clashes but rather a sense of balance.
For example, you might be very spontaneous while your perfect match is a bit more considered. Between you, you'll take care to make a decision but won't labor over it forever. Meanwhile, perhaps you're more outgoing and they're on the reserved side. This will mean you sometimes have different needs, but your quieter partner will help to ground you and you, in turn, will help them become more social.
11. You're Both Aware Of Each Other's Emotional Languages
The core thought behind “emotional languages” or “love languages” is that we all express and experience love in different ways.
This means that sometimes, we can be expressing our sincere care for someone and yet find that it doesn't land with them because they speak another “language”.
While you don't need to have the same language as your partner, soulmates invariably at least understand how to speak each other's emotional language.
Sometimes, despite of our best intentions, it's very easy to not make our partners feel loved.
Here are the five main emotional languages through which you might communicate love.
- Words of affirmation, through words of love and appreciation.
- Quality time, though creating special and focused time together.
- Acts of service, through doing things that help to lighten their load.
- Physical touch, through non-verbal interaction like cuddles and kisses.
- Gifts, through gifts and gestures that express gratitude.
If your soul mate speaks the emotional language of acts of service, say, you'll know that they'll feel your love most keenly when you fix something around the house. Meanwhile, if your emotional language is physical touch, your partner will know you need a hug when you're feeling low.
12. You Completely Trust Your Partner
None of us feel perfectly secure constantly. If you are aware of your partner's worth, you'll be aware that other people are likely to notice it too. This can make you feel a little jealous sometimes. However, if you're with your soulmate, these feelings should be fleeting and they should have nothing to do with mistrusting your partner. For example, it's one thing to suspect your partner's work colleague might be flirting with them, and quite another thing to try and forbid your partner from seeing this person. In the former case, you're just feeling a little territorial – in the latter, you're controlling and untrusting.
However, even with a soul mate, you may need to work at learning how to trust someone. If you've been hurt before, it may be hard to relax into love. In time, however, if you're with your perfect match then you'll offer and receive total trust.
13. You've Crossed Each Other Paths Before
It's common to ask “Have I already met my soulmate?”
Crossing their path is usually accompanied by a strong sense of familiarity.
The answer is yes. You have almost certainly met each other at some past time, and just not quite made a soul connection.
For example, it's common to discover you've lived in the same town as someone for years before meeting. Or even to find out that you work on the floor above them at your office.
You'll only meet when the time is right. When you're both ready to build something real and lasting out of that early bond.
Related article: Soul Connection Signs: How To Know If You Have A Soul Bond
14. You Don’t Threaten Each Other
Finally, while everyone argues at times, this will never devolve into emotional abuse with your soulmate. This means that you don't try to hurt each other with cruel words, threaten each other with separation, or play power games. If you're with an emotionally abusive partner, this is a strong sign that they aren't the right match for you. Of course, there will be times when one of you hurts the other, but in the right relationship, such pain is never deliberate and there is a shared desire to work on improving communication and clarity so as to avoid future conflict.
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