Our external world is a mirror reflection of what’s going on inside of us all. When we change what’s happening on the inside, our external world begins to naturally follow suit. That’s when the magic really starts to happen! When we place all of our happiness in our external situations (events, people, material objects, etc.) we can develop a need to control these things. The result of this can be extreme stress.
So, instead of making yourself powerless to the external, why not work on the internal, for an unshakable source of happiness that’ll stay with you no matter what may be going on in your life?
Your career, your body, your relationship… When we struggle to control and perfect these areas of our lives, we only succeed in making ourselves exhausted and feeling worse than ever. When this happens, it’s time to turn our attention inward to work on what’s really happening beneath the surface.
To begin making changes within a changing world without, here is your go-to 6 step guide.
Stop letting your perception of your external circumstances determine how you feel!
When we judge the situations, people, and goings-on we see in our external world, we are giving them the power to determine how we feel. So, rather than labeling everything in your life as ‘negative’ or ‘positive’, why not try and simply accept things for what they are?
Once you learn to be ok with what you see going on outside of you, you can begin to take a closer look at what’s going on within.
Your feelings, thought patterns, emotional triggers; you need to understand that these are the things that matter and that are ultimate, within your control.
How can you create change when you’ve become detached from your own being? In a fast-paced, modern age such as ours, we spend more time ‘doing’ than we do simply ‘being’.
Why is just ‘being’ so important for a positive change? For starters, when we allow ourselves to simply ‘be’ and connect with the present moment, we get the chance to work through our internal life, processing our thoughts, our emotions and creating that necessary space we all need to be happy.
So, if you’re a chronic over-doer, try setting aside time each day to do absolutely nothing. Whether you’re meditating or staring out the train window (without reaching for your phone/ipad/book etc.), use this time to examine what’s coming up in your emotional life. What have you been avoiding thinking about?
Once you’ve created the space that you need to become better attuned to your inner world, it’s time to take a closer look.
Practice observing your emotions rather than immediately reacting to them.
For example, the next time somebody does something to make you angry, rather than react with anger or hurtful words try having an inner dialogue with yourself. ‘I’m feeling really angry and hurt. Why? What’s bringing these emotions out in me?’
By practicing improved awareness in this way and creating some space between you and what’s happening outside of you, you’ll gain greater clarity and regain control of the situation.
This next step sounds easy enough but is something many of us struggle to do.
Career goals, big life ambitions, 5-year plans… As a species, we have come to love nothing better than planning ahead. In fact, we probably spend so much time worrying about and planning for our futures, that we miss out on the right here and now. Not to mention the stress that we put ourselves under as a result!
Enough already. Make each new day and your ability to make it the best it can be your sole purpose. Without knowing it you will have slowly begun to build up a set of habits and productive actions that will become the building blocks on which you fulfill your dreams.
When you want to set big, positive changes in motion, who can you turn to for support? Support, whether it’s from our peers, family or friends, can be important when we are looking to become the very best version of ourselves.
So, try to connect with people that may be on a similar journey to yours. The internet, for example, can be a great place for meeting like-minded people.
Whether you want to change your entire life or want to make small but meaningful changes, you have to do the work!
Trust that once you begin to change things on the inside, your outside world will follow. Practice love over fear. Be fussy about what you give your attention to. Remember to stay in the present moment and finally, create your life, don’t react to it.
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