We all have things that we'd like to change about our lives, or about ourselves. Most of the time, these considerations are probably just fleeting thoughts or daydreams that crop up during bad days.
However, sometimes something happens and you just know you have to change your life in a significant way, for good. But how do you identify the major things that need to change?
Plus, how do you ensure that you make positive changes? When you have a deep sense of dissatisfaction, it can be hard to figure out exactly where to start.
This guide tackles the question “How can I change my life?”, exploring the best techniques you can use and discuss the key signs that you're successfully transforming your world.
So, whether you want to change your career, your relationships, your behavior, or just about everything in your life, we'll help you create an action plan that works.
First, let's give some more thought to the indications that you need to change.
If you experience one or more of the following on a regular basis, this is a strong indicator that you need to take a different approach to your life:
Working out how to change your life depends in large part on exactly what isn't working for you.
Further, even if you think you know what needs to change (e.g. your current job), you might be confused about what you'd like to have instead (e.g. which future career would truly make you happy).
The following five techniques will help you figure out what you want to change and how you want to change it.
Throughout, we'll also consider how to design realistic steps that you can take to create changes that last.
If you're like most people, you've never really worked out your life's purpose.
Perhaps you've been told (by parents or teachers) what it should be, or maybe you've gravitated towards what seems to impress others without really thinking about whether it's good for you. To narrow down your true purpose, ask yourself the following questions:
If you make notes on all of these questions, you'll likely begin to see a pattern emerge. What you should be left with is a sense of a life purpose that reflects not only what you're good at but also your values, your passions, and the areas of the world in which you want to promote positive change.
When you start thinking “I need change”, one of the best things you can do is create a vision board.
In a nutshell, this is a visual representation of your desires; how you want to change, and the life you want to live.
Vision boards are often used in conjunction with Law of Attraction work, where the focus is on maintaining consistent levels of positive energy that facilitate forward momentum.
Most people say that vision boards serve as concrete reminders of what you want to achieve, making it more tangible and keeping your inspiration levels high.
You can place them anywhere in your home (or in multiple places) to remind you of what you're working for.
You can add anything you want to the board; your own photographs, artwork, specific words, things you've cut out from magazines, tickets, and so on. In short, anything that makes you believe in the future you want to create!
When you need change, quotes can be incredibly useful. If you’re looking for specific words to place on your vision board, here are ten inspirational quotes you can consider using:
As suggested by some of the above quotes, part of working out how to change your life for the better involves learning how to see it differently in the first place.
You may have previously assumed that positive thinking is implausible and disingenuous and that it trains you to be satisfied with a life that isn't good enough.
However, the most effective positive thinking technique for sustained change isn't anything to do with lying to yourself. Rather, it's about ensuring you look for the good in all scenarios.
For example, suppose something you want to do doesn't work out. Accept the disappointment, process it, and work through it.
However, also challenge yourself to find at least one positive in this scenario. Does it open up a further opportunity, leave you with more time for something else that you care about? There's always something productive to be learned or enjoyed, no matter how bleak things seem.
When you think you want to figure out how to change your life completely, it's important to take a moment and ensure that you're not trying to turn yourself into something you’re not.
By all means, transform your reality, but do so in a way that's true to who you are, not in a way that rejects fundamental, unshakable parts of who you are.
In addition, be clear that the changes you want to make are for you, and not for someone else you want to please or impress.
If you have difficulty accepting who you are, reflect on why this is the case. What experiences in your history led you to have low self-esteem or to want to be someone else?
It is only when you fully embrace your nature, your gifts, and your unique personality that you can find your life's purpose and create a satisfying change that lasts.
When you make huge changes, it's vital to set specific goals and to work towards them. In particular, these goals should be clearly defined, achievable, and in an order that makes sense.
Dreaming of ways to change your life is a good start, but it's the practical strategizing that will take you from wishing to being. Split your larger goal into sub-goals, and experiment with creating a timeline to try and stick to.
However, don't be punitive here. Some aspects of your plan may not work out and will require redesigning. This doesn't mean change is impossible, or that your dreams are out of reach.
Living in a safe, comfortable way has its merits, but to change your life you'll need to leave your comfort zone and start doing some of the things that scare you.
So, as you start to learn more about yourself, begin to cultivate new habits, and spend time focusing on a different kind of life, how do you know if your plans are working? Not all changes are enormous and immediately obvious.
Keep an eye out for more subtle signs that your life is changing, including the following seven: