We often yearn to feel peace. Whether we're overwhelmed at work, managing hectic family life, or struggling with our mental health, we may feel like we'll never find a sense of calm again.
It's easy to assume that only external factors determine peace of mind, but the truth is that you can take control of it more directly than you might realize.
What's more, when you do create peace of mind for yourself, you can enjoy everything from an enhanced sense of well-being to improved focus, optimism, and clearer thinking.
But how do you start? A vital first step is learning how you can cultivate a calmer, more peaceful mind throughout everyday experiences.
We'll start this guide by considering what peace of mind really is, before offering an in-depth explanation of four tried and true techniques.
Finally, we'll close by considering why and how self-hypnosis can help you to reach your goals.
We all have an intuitive sense of what finding peace of mind feels like.
However, if you want to learn how to get peace of mind more regularly then it's helpful to refine your idea of what you're looking for.
One way to describe it is as a feeling of inner stillness, as though your consciousness is the smooth surface of a lake.
Beyond metaphor, you can tell when you've found peace of mind because you notice two key factors.
A new kind of clarity, and a different sort of focus.
Let's take a closer look at both of these ingredients of peace of mind.
A clear mind is an organized mind, one that allows you to think about things carefully and without bias.
For example, if you are facing a decision with a clear mind, you can easily draw out the pros and cons of each choice, and can easily access your own feelings about your options.
Having a clear mind and experiencing peace of mind are intimately connected – each is a part of the other.
Meanwhile, peace of mind itself promotes increasingly greater clarity of thought, as your brain slowly filters out all of the things that don't really matter.
To see the importance of a clear mind, notice that it impacts every day of your life.
If you wake with a clear head and start your interactions that way, you take life (and each person in it) as it is, as opposed to getting stuck in misinterpretations and anxieties.
And this peaceful way of interacting with others promotes everything from healthy relationships to success at work.
The other central ingredient of peace of mind – enhanced focus – increases the more you work on clearing your thoughts of extraneous background noise. As you continually cultivate an inner world full of mental peace, you become able to focus on anything you want to.
This includes focusing for long periods, to allow you to study, work, or engage in creative projects for productive hours at a time.
Meanwhile, you can even drive further and for longer, and your reaction time is faster too (making you more adroit physically).
The fact that peace of mind leads to this elevated, intense ability to focus really underlines just how peace of mind can help you get ahead.
While most of us chase peace of mind primarily to feel better and more relaxed, it's an undeniably powerful tool in creating the future we want.
People who are still living hectic, disorganized lives, and battling a myriad of confusing emotions simply can't spend the same amount of time and energy on their projects.
Consequently, we thrive thanks to our consistent peace of mind, enjoying an edge in any type of competition.
Now that you have a much deeper understanding of exactly why a peaceful mind = peaceful life, let's look at how to find peace of mind in your everyday routine.
Followed together, these four steps will help to take control of your life, boosting your happiness and your productivity almost instantly.
Suppose you make plans for a day out with good friends, and when you arrive it starts to rain.
What is your first impulse, your first feeling? Do you get angry, feeling like the day is ruined and almost blaming yourself for planning a less than perfect day?
Or do you shrug, feel a little irritated, and make the best of things? If the former sounds all too familiar, you're probably one of the biggest obstacles to your own peace of mind.
The first step to establishing long-lasting peace of mind, then, is truly accepting that you can't control everything in your life.
Yes, your self-control and careful planning are valuable, but it only goes so far – it can't regulate the actions of others or insulate you from luck.
If you've ever been accused of being a control freak or simply wondered whether you are, turning down this aspect of yourself can have a huge impact on your mood. But how do you do this?
One useful tool is affirmations – positive statements you repeat to yourself to change your mental state. When you feel your urge to control the world around you kick in, try saying “I don't need to control everything. The universe will give me what I need.”
Another way to challenge yourself is to ask: in a day, will I still care about this thing I can't control?
What about in two weeks, or a month? Often, you'll realize the annoyance is simply passing, and feel able to let go of the need for control.
The next step to establishing peace of mind is to create a morning routine. Firstly, this routine should involve things that relax you and set you up for a calm, focused day.
Secondly, even just the act of having a repeated routine helps to bring you peace of mind. You wake up knowing what to expect, and will simply find yourself flowing into the day rather than fighting the clock or stressing about what you need to do. Now, what should this morning routine involve?
There's no one routine that suits everyone, but there are certain ingredients that tend to promote a calm, happy morning routine.
Try some kind of mix of the following:
Of course, the above is probably too much for anyone to do during a morning routine. Even just doing two or three of these things can set you up for an entirely different mood.
The goal is to make life comfortable, relaxing, and reassuringly organized (without trying to control everything!).
In the step above, we discussed making a task list as one component of a potential morning routine. Even if you don't make such a list in the morning, it's a great idea to have a general task light floating around.
Not only can it promote peace of mind by helping to structure your time, but it is also a huge help if you want to stop procrastinating.
In fact, it's smart to have several tasks list – some which concern everyday tasks and others that focus more on your larger life goals. The latter is something you might check in with every week, using it to inform your daily task lists.
However, whether your task list creates more pressure or makes you feel better depends a lot on how you itemize tasks and the order in which you do them.
Firstly, try to commit to always getting the hardest task on your daily list out of the way first. This creates an instant sense of accomplishment and relief that will last for hours. If you avoid the hardest task, your awareness of it will follow you around and make you feel stressed rather than helping you to relax.
The second piece of advice to follow in order to get the most out of your task list is to break large items into smaller tasks.
For example, something like “build a new website for my business” will just generate stress and pressure. In contrast, splitting that into five tasks that lead to a complete site feels manageable and easier to plan.
Finally, when you think about what tends to take away your peace of mind, especially when you are feeling overwhelmed, you'll probably realize that you hold the views of others in very high esteem.
Whether you actually look to particular people for explicit approval or simply tend to imagine what they might think of you, it's very stressful to constantly feel like you have something to prove.
Often, our need to please others goes back to how we were raised, or to peer pressure, we experienced in school – and figuring out the roots can help you reject this way of thinking.
But no matter where it comes from, obsessing over potential bad opinions others may hold about you will only drag you down. In contrast, the goal should be to develop a view on which the only opinion that matters is your own.
Of course, this can sound like a tall order. One perspective-shifting trick that can help is to think about how much time you really give to judging others.
If you're like most people, you actually don't spend much time at all thinking critically about the things others do – especially those you love, who you're likely to support even when they make mistakes.
Consider, then, that it's likely people treat your life in the same way. In other words, they're probably not paying all that much attention, and when they do think about your life they are most likely rooting for things to go well for you.
So, you now have a range of techniques you can use to promote peace of mind and help you to become the happiest, most successful version of yourself.
However, if you're struggling to make these changes or you've made them but want to grow as a person, even more, self-hypnosis could be the perfect solution.
In a nutshell, self-hypnosis supports you in reaching goals that require changing the way you think, act, and feel.
So, whatever stands between you and peace of mind, there's a program available to help you tackle that aspect of your life once and for all.
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