Do you know that you are not living your greatest possible life, but are afraid to make the changes necessary to turn your situation around?
If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, here are 10 questions to help shake up your expectations for your life and move forward with confidence.
Sometimes, we know deep down in our hearts that something’s got to change. However, we rationalize our need for things to stay the same by looking at how much time, energy or income we’ve already invested.
For example, you may be reluctant to leave a job that makes you miserable because you’ve worked there for 7 years… or are slow to leave a relationship that’s not right for you, because you’ve already got the engagement ring.
So ask yourself: if the slate was wiped clean, would you still stay? If you were still new to the job, relationship or commitment would you walk away?
Remember, it’s never to later to start again. Nothing can change unless you do first.
If you’re stuck in an unhappy relationship, career, environment or situation before you jump into something new you should ask yourself: what’s really going to be different next time?
It’s easy to jump into a new job, relationship or town, but if you’re not happy now then what can be so different next time that your happiness should no longer be an issue?
Sometimes, when causes for unhappiness continually crop up in our lives, it is because there is a lesson still to be learned… So dig deep.
It may be uncomfortable at first, but get to the root cause of what is making you unhappy and next time things can be different.
There never does seem a good time for a change, does there? There will never be the ‘perfect’ time to end a relationship, set off on your solo world travels or start up your own business… you can always find a reason to wait.
Why? Because change is scary; so it’s only natural that we should want to delay it.
However, there really is no time like the present and if you are unhappy or have a dream that needs pursuing, you need to do something about it NOW!
Let go of your excuses! That is simply fear talking. Breakthrough the discomfort and seize the only thing that is real, the today.
When a big decision is at hand or you find yourself facing important life choices, who do you give most of your attention to?
The needs of your authentic self, or the opinions and negative talk of others around you?
If your answer is the latter, then this needs to change. No matter what choices you make in life, there will always be the critics and naysayers.
The trick is to focus on your own voice, your authentic inner self-talking until all outside noise fades away and you can get clear on what is best for you.
Strangely, people tend to be much better at giving honest, loving advice to others than they are at taking it themselves.
So, if your partner, best friend or a relative was in your shoes, what advice would you have for them?
Would you tell them to play it safe and stay as they are, or would you encourage them to be happy and follow their dreams?
Take your own advice once in a while.
You’ve no doubt considered what you’d have to lose if things were to change, but have you asked yourself what’s at stake if you choose for things to stay the same?
By not changing, you’re at risk of letting time pass you by, staying stuck, unhappy or of missing out on your dreams.
Arguably the biggest excuse that people often give for not pursuing their passions or creating change in their lives is income, or lack of it.
This is a genuine concern for a lot of people that ask questions like ‘what should I do without the security of a stable income?’
When you’ve got questions like these whirling around your mind, it’s important to use a little perspective. For example, is a 9 to 5 job really offering you security?
After all, any of us could lose our job at any moment.
So ask yourself: how can you make the most of what you’ve got now?
When you’re struggling to break out of the mundane and need that extra push into an extraordinary living, you need to start looking at the bigger picture.
In 10 years from now, what kind of person do you want to be? How much braver, stronger and fulfilled do you hope to have become?
Create your vision for yourself and let that be your fuel, to be propelled to bigger and even better things.
The funny thing about regret is that people won’t often regret the things they've done but instead, the things they didn't do. After all, it is better to have reached for your dreams, even if everything didn’t go to plan than to never have tried at all.
So when you’re feeling stuck, ask yourself: would I regret not taking action in 10 or even 20 years’ time?
Sometimes, there is nothing better than a worst-case scenario to help put things into better perspective.
It seems to be a natural tendency for people to plan for the worst; when we allow our minds to evade the present moment, our anxiety and stress levels significantly go up as we try to imagine future outcomes that are yet to happen.
However, when you’re afraid of making a change and need that little extra shove outside of your comfort zone, your worst-case scenarios may actually prove your best friend.
Well, when we think about them logically, our worst-case scenarios are often nowhere near as bad as we’d previously imagined. For example you may be tittering on the edge of starting your own business.
As a result, your worst case scenario could look something like this; the business could be a total flop, you lose the cash you invested, and you have to move into a smaller apartment and take up a 2nd job whilst you get back on your feet. Yes, this is not an ideal outcome but do you die?
Does anyone that you care about get hurt? I’m betting the answer might be no. So what is there to be afraid of?
So there you are; 10 thought-provoking questions to hopefully stir you up and inspire you to greater living outside of the box!
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