Do you find it difficult to make decisions or changes in your life, without seeking reassurance from the opinions of those around you? If the answer is yes, then you are not alone.
As a society, we have become far too pre-occupied with what others may think of us. Arguably, our constant need for approval and a want to ‘fit-in’ is a big part of what makes us human. After all, it is this need to ‘fit-in’ that has helped us to survive and evolve as a species. However, when do we know when to draw the line and live for own happiness rather than for the happiness of others? When is it time to say that enough is enough?
Too often we allow our fear of what others think of us to dominate our lives; preventing us from fulfilling our ambitions, speaking our true minds or from even revealing our authentic selves.
We allow the opinions of others; namely, our friends, families, work colleagues or even total strangers to change the direction of our lives. Some of these people may be a big part of your life and care for you deeply, but ask yourself: do any of them know you better than you know yourself?
Having the support of people around you that appreciate and love you for who you are and what you can do, can be an incredible feeling.
However, having the support of others in all of your opinions and choices is in no way essential to your happiness. You do not need anyone’s approval or validation. You are good enough just as you are.
When the time comes to making a positive change in your life, remember this; it is your happiness and your life that you are taking charge of. Therefore, it is only your opinion that is of any importance.
When we try to make a positive change in our lives, it is often the people who care about us the most that are the problem. From your family to your friends, there will be many people who falsely claim to know you better than you know yourself
Sometimes, agreeing with the people that we care about at the cost of our own opinions can seem like the easy way out. However, if you do this you are only setting yourself up for future misery.
If these people really ‘got you’ they would understand that you, not they, know what is best for your life. So, if you find that the people you love cannot be strong enough to let you stand alone and make your own decision, then you have to be strong enough for the both of you and take the initiative. Gracefully dismiss their opinions. They are of no importance to you or what you hope to achieve. Therefore, follow your own intuition. Have faith in your opinions and actions. You know what is best for you, just follow your gut.
When other people judge us or try to inflict their opinions on us, these are usually a reflection of their own insecurities.
Many people are often reluctant to move out of their comfort zone, so when they see someone else do it they can find it uncomfortable as they are forced to stop and take stock of their own lives. A recognizable example of this happening on a small scale could be this; you go out for dinner with friends and they torment you for selecting the sensible option, teasingly inviting you to share some chips with them. This is a trivial example, but it shows how difficult others can find it to support our decisions for change in even the smallest areas of our lives.
So, be wary of opinions that come from a place of fear. They do not have your best interests at heart and should be ignored.
It is important to be considerate and understanding of other people’s opinions; but no more so than to your own! It is your life and happiness which is at stake, nobody else’s.
The people around you may judge and resist your opinions and choices, but in the end, each person is responsible for taking care of their own happiness and well-being. Make sure you take responsibility for yours.
When it comes to making decisions or making changes in your life, listen to gut instincts. It is your life and your happiness that is hanging in the balance, so the only opinion you should be listening to is yours.
Align your actions with your authentic self. Begin to live your life your way. The after-effects can amaze you.
It can be hard to trust your own instinct, especially when it comes to certain decisions you might have to make. However, you are your own best friend and it can be very helpful to listen to yourself and how you are feeling.
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