Becoming who we want to be is a lifelong process. As we go through life, making mistakes, living through the good times and the not-so-good times, coming together and falling apart; we are continually shedding our old skins, revealing the new.
But when we want to become more of ourselves, our authentic selves right now, where do we start?
The best way to begin would be to ask yourself the more pressing question at hand, how do I stop being who I am not?
You see, we are always who we are meant to be. Our biggest mistakes, our greatest loves, our most painful betrayals, or beautiful friendships; are all a part of who we are.
However, to fulfill your potential and live a life true to who you are, you need to strip back the things that are shrouding the real, authentic you from sight.
Enforced stereotypes, fixations with how others see us, a need for approval, painful memories, an obsession with an image; all contribute to the painful girdle that suppresses and squeezes our real selves from sight. The real you that wants to break out and cartwheel around naked for the entire world to see!
If you find yourself constantly asking yourself ‘who am I meant to be?' then maybe it's time to ask yourself these three questions instead…
How will you ever have the chance to connect with your authentic, beautiful self when you’re always running?
You need to stop. Stop and take a long, hard look at the YOU in the present. You are not the person you were yesterday, nor do you know who you will be tomorrow. So, stop living unconsciously and take the time to appreciate the person you are today. Living in the present this way will allow the good and the crazy and the creator that is all within you to reveal itself more and more every day.
So, who will you stop being? Begin to let go of any action, behaviors or thought patterns that you know are not aligned with your authentic self.
It could be something big, like how difficult you find it to forgive others, or it could be something as simple as learning to say no to experiences you don’t enjoy. So many of us have become stuck in a rut of acting a certain way or fitting into others' perception of us, that we find ourselves drifting further and further from the things that really matter to us most.
So, make a promise to let go of something today. Dreams, goals, ambitions, daily to-dos; anything you know is not serving the person you want to be, choose to let them go.
When we behave, think or act in a way that is not true to who we are; there is pain involved. It could come in the disguise of a shopping addiction, binge eating, anger, or excessive exercise.
Whatever it is if you know that this is not the person you really are. You need to get to the root of where this pain is coming from. Understanding the origin of this ‘stranger’ in your life will help you to exercise it for good.
Little by little, as you begin to rid yourself of the old, heavy burdens that have held you back for so long, your true, authentic self will have more and more space to shine through.
One thing you can be certain of is that you are in love. So, in your search for yourself, understand that this love is enough, and with this understanding, that you are already living as your true self.
Becoming our authentic selves is the bravest, most essential, most loving thing we can do; and as long as you are striving for this, you have already succeeded.
If you want to truly become who you really are, you need to establish what this will mean for your values and goals. Try to write down your aspirations and who you really want to be and do.
This can make it easier for you to establish who the real you is and what you do want to achieve in life. Having these things written down is great as you can always go back and reflect on what you have written.
You can look back and decide if you are truly being yourself and if you still align with these beliefs and values that you have written down. You can also reflect on your goals and see if there has been anything in the past that had stopped you from achieving them before.
It can be hard to finally find yourself and understand who you truly want to be in life. But you can use the Law of Attraction to get a better understanding of who you are – through vision boards, visualization, and much more.